IVIKA AND PETER, SLOVAKIAN BUSKERS |
“Freedom’s just another word for nothin’ left
to lose/
Nothin’ ain’t worth nothin’ but it’s
free” (from Kris Kristofferson’s
song, Me and Bobby McGee).
Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of
Happiness is a
well-known phrase in the United States Declaration of Independence, and the
general theme for this particular blog entry.
The pursuit
of Happiness is to me, the pursuit of positive experiences (is to me) to
achieve more happiness in life.
Playing
electronic and video games, watching television, reading, going for coffee,
going for beers, are some popular pastime pursuits enjoyed by Western consumers.
The reason we
engage in such pursuits is because we want to.
Such choices are our choices, exercises of our free will. (When we are forced into doing things, these
experiences then are not as positive, maybe even negative.)
Attempting to
make the world fit OUR desires is called Primary Control. Anytime we try to force the world into our
personal agenda is most often a futile exercise in control, resulting in a
certain dissonance.
Learning the
flexibility of controlling our actions to our experiences is called Secondary
Control. Being flexible in the circumstance
is a worthwhile exercise in harmonically going with the flow.
Secondary
Control is the true test to adjust to uncontrollable situations. Having secondary control is having PERSONAL
POWER, or in other words, FREE WILL.
Having
positive personal power, though, demands thought and action.
First, we must
be aware of the times when we are not in control. (Consider such times as happy accidents, or random
luck.) For more
personal enjoyments, try to always engage in the not-in-control
experience. Positive benefits will
always enrich the experience. Laugh and
enjoy the moment, be it by your design or not.
Here is the
lesson: Real personal power demands that
you evaluate your life carefully and always attempt to appreciate and enjoy the
experience.
“Freedom’s just another word for nothin’ left
to lose/ Nothin’ ain’t worth nothin’ but it’s free.” When you’ve nothing to lose – you can do
whatever you please. Nothing left to lose is a rather
anti-consumerism expression: OUR
THINGS OWN US.
This brings
to mind explanation of my snappy title, STATE
OF PLAY: FREE WILL OR FREE TIME.
First there
is my pun on play, as in romp or
strum. Recreation (synonym for play) can be the constructive use of our
free time, free, being another pun.
Free can mean from obligation, or free as in a dollar value. If free
is interpreted as a perceived leisure, then free
means an intrinsic motivation of sorts.
Free offers three levels of connotation
and inference; first as in time,
second as in activity, and third as
in a state of mind.
I’m
presenting so far that our values of
free time could very well be a time versus
money dilemma. This dilemma, measured according
to money, offers only the visceral heart vs head, zero-sum solution.
Or the value of
free time could be a social value, the
construct allocation of time (and money) to another person, or other people, volunteerism
(coaching) for example.
Or the value of
free time could be recreational
value, the construct activity done for enjoyment, amusement, pleasure, or in a
word … FUN.
NINE-BALL: BEST GAME EVER (FOR ME) |
In my free
time I watch CNN for twenty minutes
every day on television, just to catch up on the national news, expecting any
day now to discover that our obsessed birther, Don Trump, was actually born in Russia and is now a mole serving
the Soviet regime. In my free time I
read Psychology Today, Huffington Post, and Al Jazeera news, every morning at 5
o’clock a.m. while I sip my Americano
coffee. In my free time my zeitgeber every
morning betwixt 5:30 and 6:00 I go the gym for a weightlifting workout. In my free time I take Muay Thai on Monday
evenings. In my free time I write in delusional
earnest, books that are soon-to-be best sellers and my weekly blog, the one
you’re reading right now. In my free
time I play guitar, either busking or gigging or both. In my free time I go downtown to watch and
support my guitar buddies playing live in the downtown pubs. In my free time I play nine-ball every
Saturday afternoon. All these mentioned
activities are intrinsically motivated – all these activities are for me … FUN.
AMERICANO COFFEE: BEST DRINK EVER (FOR ME) |
Freedom’s just another word for
nothin’ left to lose.
As long as
we have something to lose, our actions are constrained by our need to protect
it.
MUAY THAI: BEST MARTIAL ART EVER (FOR ME) |
Here is what
I know:
TRUE FREEDOM COMES FROM
HAVING NOTHING LEFT TO LOSE …
WHATEVER YOU DO TO
WIMPLE YOUR FREE TIME SHOULD DEMONSTRATE LOVING YOURSELF.